Is it the weather? Is it the moon?
Naw, it's just "Horny Ex Day"
Don't hear from them in like months and figure they've moved on and forgotten me (A girl can have dreams), and they all pick today to call me.
I think someone forgot to tell me it was National Booty-Call-Your-Ex Day.
I think Ex partners should come with expiry dates that are clearly marked, that way there is no confusion as to when it's just not good anymore.
I swear they all have radar for times I've fooled around with someone better than them. I think this applies to many other people's ex's too. How else can you explain them trying to waltz back in at inopportune times?

Anyhow, back to my essays...

From: [identity profile] enfertesherz.livejournal.com


at least they dont call you at 3 am, drunk off their ass...
to give you guilt trips

From: [identity profile] enfertesherz.livejournal.com


ok
nm
and btw
i can relate
but i wont call the police on him
because he has a kid

From: [identity profile] waterspyder.livejournal.com


Fair enough. It was a while ago, I just didn't appreciate being treated like a free hooker. I mean, when I tell people not to call me, and that I'm not interested in sex, why is phone sex the answer? Some guys don't get it. And 3am is never an appropriate time to call unless there is a dire emergency.

From: [identity profile] evilbitchqueen.livejournal.com


Definitly right about the waltzing in just after your fool around with someone much better...

*coughcoughandycoughcough*

From: [identity profile] evilbitchqueen.livejournal.com


What? did I say something wrong?

Its not my fault the Bastard wouldn't know foreplay if it snuck up behind him and slugged him with a sledgehammer...

From: [identity profile] waterspyder.livejournal.com


Not at all, I laugh because it's almost universally true. "Crap, I better try and get her back before she knows what good sex is like!!"

From: [identity profile] andifferous.livejournal.com


*knows he shouldn't be posting*
well i'm putting in my bit, this is from the male side
i still have one of my exs wishing i would get back together, the sick thing is she would put out if she thought it would lead to me getting back with her...*blinks*
and half of them love to claim that "If/when we break up, I will probably still want to have sex"
it makes me laugh, usually after breaking up with them..... you don't want to have sex with them, let alone see them

From: [identity profile] waterspyder.livejournal.com


I know, there's girls referred to in my initial complaint too. Guys just make good targets sometimes. Girls are evil and manipulative a lot. Girls are also taught that guys are interested in 5 things.
1) Sex
2) Sports
3) Food
4) Alcohol
5) Sex

and while we could always ply men with beer or dinners, the most cost-effective way to get their attention is usually sex, especially if they are an ex. Even the promise of it is enough for most guys.
That is today's lesson on horrible things that ex's do.

From: [identity profile] torrain.livejournal.com

Yowza.


> Girls are evil and manipulative a lot.

You may want to look at seriously upgrading the quality of the people you hang out with.

(Mind you, this is the opinion of a cold bitch who has never been on either end of a booty call[1], and may just be sour grapes. It'll all be good as long as no brain-dead bint[2] starts explaining to me how women rule the world. ;) )
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[1] Or if I was, they were subtle and I totally missed it.
[2] I'll actually listen to this POV from someone who isn't a BDB. I suspect I will continue to disagree, but it'd at least be kind of interesting to hear something disguised as a rational argument on the subject.

From: [identity profile] waterspyder.livejournal.com

Re: Yowza.


I'm actually referring to the girls that seem to have conditioned guys into thinking this is acceptable behaviour. There seem to be a lot of ex-girlfriends that have really messed with the male mind. Unfortunately not all of these guys have managed to grasp that not all women are the same, and expect and anticipate the same behaviours (both ones that they liked and disliked).
I know it is unfair to generalize, but I've heard consistently horrific stories from guys and girls alike... unless it's just one person doing a good job making the rounds...

From: [identity profile] torrain.livejournal.com

Re: Yowza.


I'm going to be rather sharp here. None of this is directed at you, and all uses of the term "you" after this point are a reference to the generic you, not to [livejournal.com profile] waterspyder .

> I'm actually referring to the girls that seem to have
> conditioned guys into thinking this is acceptable behaviour.

Because one of the first things anyone does on a date is tie down the person they're going out with and start with the hypnotic suggestion and the pain reinforcement. Calling it conditioning is in most cases glorifying it so that people don't have to deal with the idea that they aren't bothering to think critically--it's not their fault, they've been conditioned.

> Unfortunately not all of these guys have managed to grasp that
> not all women are the same,

Very unfortunate. It's the sort of thing that, even with extraordinarily gentle conditioning, one can reasonably expect a person to figure out by the third grade. I mean, seriously--how fucking dense do you have to be to figure out that half the human race is not interchangeable?

> I know it is unfair to generalize, but I've heard consistently
> horrific stories from guys and girls alike... unless it's just
> one person doing a good job making the rounds...

Myself, I figure that a good eighty percent of the complaints stem from a lack of quality control, and that's a conservative estimate. The one thing all your exes are guaranteed to have in common is the fact that you agreed to date them, dammit. If you have more than one horror story a decade, you might want to seriously reassess your own damn dating criteria.

People choose who they date. No-one breaks your arm to force you (again, I emphasize, the generic you) to take up with or keep seeing a manipulative bitch or bastard.[1] If you don't want to date someone who plays mind games, don't. And if you manage to convince yourself, based on the grand totality of your personal experience and intermittent anecdotes, that all men/women are like that, do the rest of the world a favour and pick up a sex toy. You'll have less angst and no-one else will have to deal with your goddamn blame-shifting sexist whining.

...this particular topic pisses me off almost as much as the generic "nice guy", could you tell?
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[1] And if they do, it's not a date.

From: [identity profile] jagash.livejournal.com


If you count RPG's as a sport, that would actually be accurate in my case....

From: [identity profile] waterspyder.livejournal.com


I suppose maybe Sport should ready Hobby, but I had the entire case summed up to me as "A man is happy if he's eating pizza, drinking beer and watching Anna Kournikova play tennis in the near court."
Obviously there are exceptions based on orientation etc. but the number of guys who will agree with that statement is pretty astounding.

From: [identity profile] jagash.livejournal.com


Well, i dont see anything not to be happy about in that situation...

From: [identity profile] zenten.livejournal.com


I'm really not that interested in Sports.

Alchohol also isn't that interesting for me all the time, but that's probably because of a strong memory of hangovers.

Now, gaming and computers, they definatly fit in for sports and alchohol though :)
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