New Holiday?

[waterspyder]

Is it the weather? Is it the moon?
Naw, it's just "Horny Ex Day"
Don't hear from them in like months and figure they've moved on and forgotten me (A girl can have dreams), and they all pick today to call me.
I think someone forgot to tell me it was National Booty-Call-Your-Ex Day.
I think Ex partners should come with expiry dates that are clearly marked, that way there is no confusion as to when it's just not good anymore.
I swear they all have radar for times I've fooled around with someone better than them. I think this applies to many other people's ex's too. How else can you explain them trying to waltz back in at inopportune times?

Anyhow, back to my essays...

Comments

Re: Yowza.

[waterspyder.livejournal.com]

I'm actually referring to the girls that seem to have conditioned guys into thinking this is acceptable behaviour. There seem to be a lot of ex-girlfriends that have really messed with the male mind. Unfortunately not all of these guys have managed to grasp that not all women are the same, and expect and anticipate the same behaviours (both ones that they liked and disliked).
I know it is unfair to generalize, but I've heard consistently horrific stories from guys and girls alike... unless it's just one person doing a good job making the rounds...

Re: Yowza.

[torrain.livejournal.com]

I'm going to be rather sharp here. None of this is directed at you, and all uses of the term "you" after this point are a reference to the generic you, not to waterspyder .

> I'm actually referring to the girls that seem to have
> conditioned guys into thinking this is acceptable behaviour.

Because one of the first things anyone does on a date is tie down the person they're going out with and start with the hypnotic suggestion and the pain reinforcement. Calling it conditioning is in most cases glorifying it so that people don't have to deal with the idea that they aren't bothering to think critically--it's not their fault, they've been conditioned.

> Unfortunately not all of these guys have managed to grasp that
> not all women are the same,

Very unfortunate. It's the sort of thing that, even with extraordinarily gentle conditioning, one can reasonably expect a person to figure out by the third grade. I mean, seriously--how fucking dense do you have to be to figure out that half the human race is not interchangeable?

> I know it is unfair to generalize, but I've heard consistently
> horrific stories from guys and girls alike... unless it's just
> one person doing a good job making the rounds...

Myself, I figure that a good eighty percent of the complaints stem from a lack of quality control, and that's a conservative estimate. The one thing all your exes are guaranteed to have in common is the fact that you agreed to date them, dammit. If you have more than one horror story a decade, you might want to seriously reassess your own damn dating criteria.

People choose who they date. No-one breaks your arm to force you (again, I emphasize, the generic you) to take up with or keep seeing a manipulative bitch or bastard.[1] If you don't want to date someone who plays mind games, don't. And if you manage to convince yourself, based on the grand totality of your personal experience and intermittent anecdotes, that all men/women are like that, do the rest of the world a favour and pick up a sex toy. You'll have less angst and no-one else will have to deal with your goddamn blame-shifting sexist whining.

...this particular topic pisses me off almost as much as the generic "nice guy", could you tell?
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[1] And if they do, it's not a date.