So lesbianism is gross?

[waterspyder]

And so I had to scratch my last lover off of the list. Turns out he thinks lesbianism is repulsive. I'm wondering how I missed that discussion earlier. In any case, that's enough to disqualify him regardless of if I ever intended to share a girl with him or not. Silly boys.

Comments

[torrain.livejournal.com]

I realize this is stating the obvious, but there's a difference between thinking something is disgusting and thinking it's wrong or that people who like it are morally degenerate.

(Hang on. *Any* alternative sexuality? You're okay with people who'd like to have sex with underage children?)

[waterspyder.livejournal.com]

I just figure that while it isn't who I am, it is a part of who I am. I will at some point talk about "I remember that time I was sleeping with

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I just figure that while it isn't who I am, it is a part of who I am. I will at some point talk about "I remember that time I was sleeping with <insert girl's name here>..." and I really can't handle being told not to talk about things like that by my partners. It feels too much like keeping a dirty secret.

[torrain.livejournal.com]

Certainly fair enough. I'm not saying you behaved at all unreasonably; I just wanted to point out (more in response to feli_valkyria's comment than to you) that there's a difference between thinking something is gross and thinking it's wrong. There are things theweaselking likes that I think are gross (Cheez Whiz comes immediately to mind--dear Christ, that stuff is disgusting), but a lot less things that I think are wrong (which is good, or I wouldn't be dating him).

(Sidenote: Decision appears to make sense. I doubt that anyone who tells you not to talk about it (as opposed to warning you they're not comfortable with it and asking you to be patient with them if you talk about it, which is really the best you can hope for when someone isn't comfortable with some aspect of you) is worth keeping around.)

[feli-valkyria.livejournal.com]

Let's not argue about semantics here. Any alternative sexuality that is between two or more mutually consenting and informed human adults, is what I meant. So BDSM, polyamory, GLBTTQ and so on.

I agree with you, waterspyder ... I wouldn't like it either!

[torrain.livejournal.com]

I didn't mean to cheap-shot you, and I'm sorry if it came across that way; I just get *very* frustrated when what people say isn't what they actually mean[1], and I tend to try and point it out tongue-in-cheek.

I appreciate not wanting to argue about semantics, but shy of far more insight into you than I would feel confident in assuming I had (especially since your comment is all I have), your words are all I have to go on, and I don't consider probing for clarification to be arguing. I'm usually far more comfortable with lexical semantics than structural semantics at the best and most informed of times, and this is neither.
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[1] For the sake of utter clarity: no, I didn't actually figure you were alright with pederasty. I like my faith in humanity.