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I think part of the reason I chose to abandon most interaction over the internet is that I find too many people to be fake when online.

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I've heard of others complain of that but I've not had that problem.

If you aren't getting what you want out of it then changing or stopping makes sense.

I have had quite a few people say "The internet is an escape"... but to me it's an extension of my life, like a phone or other communication tool. It's not an anonymous playground as some people seem to think.

I must admit that I don't see internet communication as being on par with face to face comms or even a phone call. Though more often than not I find myself being more formal and more careful...not always but generally so.

I will be the first to admit though that I still think of the net (and communicating with it) as something of a novelty....I wonder if that's how people treated wireless or telephone when it first showed up on the scene....

Ironically... I see my internet persona as the more real me... people's screen names are more meaningful than their real names. I'm more relaxed when speaking in text... I find meetings in person awkward...

On the internet, I am set free from the limitations of my flesh.

I know it doesn't apply to everyone... but at least on LJ I can control who I get to interact with.

I'm fake all the time. Actually, I'm a 38 year old biker named Butch. Don't tell

zenten.

I have definitely found that to be true of web personals sites. But LJ feels very different. Admittedly, I've only been on for 2 weeks, and have not met anyone IRL, so it is possible that they are putting up a facade. But it is much more difficult to put up an internally consistent ongoing journal-style facade than to fake three paragraphs on a personals site, it seems. Have you encountered fake people on LJ too? And is that because of the online nature of how you met, or are they maybe just inherently fake?

I think she means less people pretending to be completely someone else, and more people hiding their true emotional reactions to things.

Or just being jerks and thinking they can get away with it because of the "anonymous internet"

People are fake IRL too sometimes... it's just easier to hide it in a medium without many of the nonverbal cues we use to gauge truthfulness, emotion, etc, I think.

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