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[waterspyder]

Apparently my mother is going to be difficult about my wedding after all.

I really hate it when she does this.

At Christmas she held a wrapped gift in her hands, and said "I don't think you'll like this", before handing me the gift. "If you don't want it, I'll find you something else."
Geez that doesn't skew a person's ability to objectively decide whether they like the gift or not.
It was a watch. A nice watch with multiple bands.
And for 2 days, she went on about the fucking watch and how much she didn't like it and how much she didn't think I liked it. She finally shut up when I said "Do you want the watch for yourself?" No. "Can you return the watch to the store?" No. "Well, you sure make it hard to like something. I like the watch, but you make me not want to have it."
The sad thing is I probably won't wear it now because all I can think about is my mother being enurotic when I look at the watch.

So how does this relate to the wedding?

Well, she brings up places I can't have my wedding at, when I point out pros and cons of a venue, she immediately dismisses the location when I list the first disadvantage.

This is not my usual mother, but damned if she doesn't get bizarre when it comes to gifts and special occasions. I wish she understood that it's precisely this sort of behaviour that will make me either not want to have a wedding at all, or not want her to be there.

Comments

[ms-danson.livejournal.com]

*cough*elope*cough*

Serious advice... don't ask her opinion, tell her where it is going to be and how it is going to go. (I am assuming that you are paying for it yourself.)

Many women get stupid about weddings, even weddings that aren't theirs. I don't know why.

[okcismelanie.livejournal.com]

Sounds a bit like my mom who told me she couldn't see us during x mas because she is spending it with her abusive, convict ex husband Who has served more than one sentence behind bars where she had laid charges-only you mom seems a wee bit better. :P She is your mom, you have to invite her to your wedding-if you do accept $ then I guess you know it may come with conditions...

but at the end of the day it is your call

[shadowhound.livejournal.com]

If your getting married at buring man you need to give me plenty of notice so I can save enough cash to be there.

Kerry sweetie, I would love to be at any wedding you have (from uptight and formal to loose and lovin it, as I've seen those two extremes already) I just want to be there with you, and see how happy you two are. And I swear I'd leave the animals at home (unless you wanted me to bring a couple of the odd ones just to freak out your mom/the uptight ones)

[torrain.livejournal.com]

> Geez that doesn't skew a person's ability to objectively decide whether
> they like the gift or not.

...your mother is reminding me of my future mother-in-law. Mind you, I'm used to this kind of speech, so it doesn't throw me.

For the rest, the only thing I can suggest is not involving her in the selection of the venue. At all. Can you give her something else to do, like chasing down the RSVPs people should have sent for the invitations, or getting quotes and brochures from florists?